Category: Dating and Relationships
Spend more time logged off from the zone and you'll find more people that you could actually see in person not only hear their voice or just plain old text chat. Well, its up to those who likes to look here. But in my opinion, its better if you meet that person in person not online.
It is not imposible for somebody to find somebody here. Some very good relationships started here and the people eventualy met and they live together.
But i agree that some people come on the zone only to find somebody, only speak to girls, create one or more topicks in the singles board and show very obviously how desperate they are. This is not the right way to go. People should come here to make friends. If they tern out to be something more special it's good. But it shouldn't be the primary reason for being a member.
There is potential to meet someone in any environment. There are good and bad people everywhere really.
Well really I think that I have to second what Nikos said. I certainly wouldn't recommend coming here with the soul purpose of finding a partner, though of course if you were to do so, you are well with in your right. But I agree that just coming here looking for love, sex, whatever, probably does create the wrong impression in many people's minds.
Equally though, for obvious reasons, I'll not say that you can't find the right person on here. After all I met my wife on here so, it can happen. LOL.
The important thing is to be open minded really. Don't ruin what could be a good friendship by pushing too hard for something that may well not be there for the other party but at the same time, don't turn down the chance of long term happiness just because you have some preconceived notion that finding love online is in some way sad or pathetic.
Dan.
Oh sure its possible for online dating to eventualy become a marage no doubt. But some of us need the closeness of a physical relationship (IE, meeting someone local). Anything can happen for two people if both are willing to take that step and willing to have pasents and lot of it. However going local I think makes for an easier time to see the person, its a more physical relationship as well as the personallity and other things that go along with a relationship. Oy am I makeing any sense here? Its about 20 of 6 in the morning and I've gotten four hours of sleep LOL.... Probably will go back to sleep soon for a bit also.
John
I agree whole-heartedly.
However, I do know people who made online relationships work.
Yeah, you all make a point. It depends on the person. It works, but sometimes it doesn't. There's many proven situations that it really did work between two people who met online or on the zone, but there's always the other way around it. I totally agree with nikos. Being a member of the zone is supposed to be for having fun, making friends, and not the purpose of finding a relationship.
You can definitely find your soul mate online. However, if you think it's heading in that direction, arrange to meet in person first to see if your suspicions are confirmed. Professing to be in a relationship with someone you're hoping to meet eventually someday, I think that's a perfect way to set both people up for disappointment and failure.
I agree with dan and nikos.
As Dan said, he and Shea are an example of online meeting turning into something more. It can happen. However, I don't like the "singles spit swap" board at all, and would have it removed altogether if I had the ability to do so. While it is possible to find something serious and long-lasting online, I agree with those who've said that it shouldn't be your primary goal. Those who advertise their singleness, loneliness, and in my humble opinion desperation and sadness on this board should do what others have done: Try to form friendships with those they find they have things in common with, and see where it goes from there. As for whether or not you should say you're in a relationship before you've actually met, I could write a novel on the subject, but I won't even touch that one.
Yeah. If you do meet the right person, then meeting in the near future is a good idea. You still want that excitement you had initially if it's working for both of you. You don't want to burn away too much time because that could potentially ruin it.
i agree with what Dan said. neither of us were looking for a partner. heck i was kind of liking being single. hehehehe but it just kind of happened! I would not change things for the world! he's so awesome and it's like were a perfect match! it does take a lot of dedication to make the long distance part work! I love you baby!
While I didn't meet my husband on the Zone, I did meet him online. Everyone said it would never work when we first were interested, but 10 years past early this month, and we're still together. So, just goes to show, it can be done, but it isn't easy, and we definitely wanted to meet face to face once we realized the excitement and feelings could be there.
I agree with guitar god, JH, Dan, Daren,Shae.
I personally hate online dating to. you never know the person.
The desperate folks disgust me, and if they joined for romantic interest all the more
hmmmm. I still got faith in ldr. And, I do agree there are much more fakes and many many freaks around the net. but as long as both of you trust one another, both of you are with good patiency, I'm sure you can reach your goal.
plus and minus, positive and negative things are everywhere.
ldr needs much patiency, honesty and truthful to one another.
Raaj.